UNIVERSITY OF FLORIDA PROMPT:
What is the hardest part of being a teenager now? What's the best part? What advice would you give a younger sibling or friend (assuming they would listen to you)?
Many things are temporary ---- toys, pencil markings… but sometimes it will also be people who are temporary in our lives. When people leave, sometimes it might feel like a slap on the wrist, and sometimes itʻll feel like falling into a spiral of self doubt, anxiety, despondency, and anything else negative. The hardest part about it all is accepting that people will not always stay in our lives. Itʻs also challenging, because sometimes we have no idea who to turn to, what to say, what move to make next, mostly due to the fact that at this age, we havenʻt experienced this before. The worst part about when certain people leave, is feeling alone. Sometimes it feels like being blocked by a transparent wall.
In my life, there have been many people who left just as easily as they came. Some of them were friends, and some of them were more than that. There was someone that I had cared about, but decided to leave, because he came to a conclusion that I wasnʻt what he wanted. My mind and body felt somewhat vacant, because all of the butterflies that use to be there were just replaced with this aching feeling. This was the part of my life where I felt really torn down. I couldnʻt figure out what step to take, or who to talk to, or if I should even talk to anyone. I really didnʻt know how to handle it, because I wasnʻt use to it. As absurd as all of this sounds coming from a teenager, age doesnʻt limit emotions. We will feel what we feel, regardless.
Eventually, as time passed, I realized that mostly anything and everything can be contradicted, including this situation. Even though it hurt, there will always be good in the bad. The best part about being a teenager, is being able to learn how to accept these situations and how to adjust to it. Now we really get the chance to find out what makes us feel vulnerable, find out the kind of people we want to surround ourselves with, and most of all, how we want to create the best versions of ourselves by learning from these situations. The way we react to a situation will always tell us a lot about ourselves. Just having that chance to just connect with ourselves, is good practice, especially because weʻll be going into adulthood soon.
The truth is, everyone will come and go. Maybe for a short time, or maybe for a long time… But the most important thing would be to think of what the situation does for us instead of to us. With this mentality, we will always get to turn a negative experience into a learning one, and use our past knowledge and apply it for future reference. First it will hurt, but then it changes you and you evolve into something even greater.